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November 20, 2025

    5 Do's and Don'ts for Hosting Holiday Parties

    Holiday open houses. Game day gatherings. Family get-togethers. With the holidays on the horizon, you may end up hosting more than a few celebrations. And if you’re a military family settling into a new place after a PCS, you may be eager to make your home feel welcoming this season.

    No need to invite a level of stress! One of the best tips for hosting an event is going through the details ahead of time. If you prefer a structured approach, begin organizing your to-do list with tasks and timing to keep your preparations on track. 

    While building your party planning checklist, take a look at a few “Do’s and Don’ts” we've compiled for entertaining this holiday season. Whether you’re welcoming out-of-town guests, neighbors, or fellow military families, a little preparation goes a long way.

    holiday drink with cookies and candy cane, green decoration in the background with text, 5 dos and donts for hosting holiday parties

    1. Don’t let lingering pet odors be the first thing your guests notice when they arrive.

    Do: Welcome your guests with a clean, fresh fragrance. 

    A fresh citrus, calming vanilla, or subtle floral scent can transform the atmosphere as soon as guests step through the door.

    To keep things simple and safe:

    • Light scented candles strategically placed around your home
    • Simmer fragrant wax tarts on the stove or in a wax warmer
    • Diffuse essential oils for a subtle but inviting aroma that lingers without being overwhelming

    A light fragrance adds to the comfortable atmosphere and encourages visitors to make themselves at home. Keeping in mind guests with allergies, give your house a good cleaning and stash away any pet items you can. This extra step ensures everyone can enjoy the evening without discomfort.

    2. Don’t make guests fetch beverages from the rickety spare fridge in the garage. 

    Do: Set up a well-stocked beverage station that's easy to access. 

    Whether you’re serving cocktails, mocktails, or something warm for cold evenings, chill a variety of drinks in an accessible cooler or serving tub and keep hot beverages in an insulated carafe. A dedicated drink station gives guests the freedom to serve themselves—whether they’re grabbing cocoa, cider, or a cold drink—and encourages mingling from the moment they arrive.

    Items to include in your beverage station:

    • A bottle opener for easy access to beer and soda
    • Koozies to keep cold drinks cold
    • Cups and mugs for all kinds of beverages, from hot cocoa to water and wine
    • Garnishes like fresh mint sprigs, slices of lemon and lime, or olives for martinis and cocktails
    • Insulated carafes or dispensers to keep coffee, tea, or hot cider warm
    • A small assortment of tea bags (herbal, black, and seasonal flavors)
    • Hot chocolate mix or cocoa packets
    • Cinnamon sticks, honey, sugar packets, and lemon slices for customizing hot drinks
    • Mini marshmallows or flavored whipped cream for a fun finishing touch

    By having drinks prepped and ready to go, guests will have something to sip while they wait for the food to arrive—an effortless way to encourage mingling from the start. 

    3. Don’t shoo guests out of the kitchen.

    Do: Create natural gathering spots throughout your home.

    man with beard and women gathered around table with holiday food, candle, and wine with christmas garland and ornaments hanging behind. Photo by vladans from Getty Images via Canva.com

    Whether they lend a helping hand, partygoers are often drawn to the kitchen as the heart of the home. To keep the flow moving and give everyone room, create inviting gathering spots throughout your home to give guests options and keep the kitchen from feeling crowded.

    Ideas for perfect hangout spots:

    • Arrange small groupings of chairs to encourage conversation
    • The patio (weather permitting) with blankets for extra warmth
    • Close to the television, where guests can enjoy a game or chat during downtime

    Provide guests with appetizers or snacks in these areas. A cozy, candlelit setting and bite-sized snacks placed just out of reach of the kitchen can help steer conversations away from the food prep zone.

    Simple touches like candles, throw blankets, or other pieces of affordable home decor can make these hangout spots warm and welcoming without adding extra stress to your budget.

    4. Don’t go beyond your comfort zone and attempt that complicated gourmet recipe from Pinterest.

    Do: Stick with what you know and make it easy on yourself.

    The holiday season doesn’t need to be a culinary challenge. Trust your instincts and choose a few tried-and-true dishes everyone will enjoy. Focus on serving crowd-pleasing snacks and simple appetizers.

    Some party staples to include: 

    • Cheese and crackers or a charcuterie board (always a classic)
    • Fresh fruit and veggie platters for a healthy option
    • Chips and dip for easy comfort food
    • Nuts and dried fruits for a crunchy snack

    Have everything prepped and ready to go, so you can set out food before or as guests arrive. Make it even easier on yourself by taking advantage of prepared items from your local grocer or deli.

    For a thoughtful touch, ask guests about food allergies ahead of time and offer some accommodating options.

    5. Don't stress over dirty dishes.

    Do: Empty the dishwasher and clear the sink and surrounding countertops of stray items before guests arrive. 

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    If you clear the sink and counters before the party starts, you'll have more "real estate" to work with when dirty dishes start piling up.

    To stay ahead of the clean-up:

    • Stock the counter with dish soap, a clean sponge, and a pile of kitchen towels
    • Set out plastic wrap, storage containers, or foil for leftover food
    • If a friend offers to help, let them!

    As the host, it might feel strange to delegate cleaning tasks to guests, but the goal is for you to spend less time tidying and more time socializing. By preparing your space ahead of time, you’re giving yourself the gift of more time with your guests, and less time stressing over the small stuff.

    By planning ahead, using affordable home decor options, and keeping these simple tips in mind, you can keep stress at bay and make your holiday gatherings more enjoyable for everyone. A bonus is simplifying and focusing on what truly matters: making memories and enjoying the company of those around you.

    Here’s to hosting the perfect soiree this holiday season!

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    Jen McDonald

    Jen McDonald is the Content Editor for MilitaryByOwner Advertising and an award-winning author, podcaster, and longtime cheerleader for military spouses. Over 30+ years of military life, she raised four kids, supported her husband’s Air Force career, kept a freelance writing career afloat, tracked which state her driver’s license belonged to, and perfected the art of unpacking a house in under three days while pretending she meant to put the coffee mugs in that cupboard. Jen is the author of You Are Not Alone: Encouragement for the Heart of a Military Spouse and Milspouse Matters: Sharing Strength Through Our Stories, books offering encouragement and “been there” wisdom for military families. Her writing has earned numerous awards, including a Gold Medal from the Military Writers Society of America and a Silver Award from Foreword INDIES, proof that scribbling notes on the back of grocery receipts can pay off. She also hosts the Milspouse Matters podcast, sharing stories and encouragement with military families worldwide. Now happily planted in Texas (and hoping to avoid moving trucks for the foreseeable future), Jen is working on her debut cozy mystery novel and reveling in grandparenting, which comes with all the snuggles and none of the 2 a.m. feedings. Connect with Jen at her site, Jen McDonald and Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest.