Neighbor. It’s a simple word that can mean so much. Neighbors can make a duty station memorable in so many ways. They can easily define a two- to three-year span or maybe more in your life. Your baby’s first splash in a plastic pool might be with a baby neighbor, or their first walk to school might include friends from the block. These are memories that last a lifetime.
But what about the neighbor who verbally attacks you with false accusations as you push your newborn in the stroller and walk the dog past her house? Or the family that neglects and ties up their dog outside regardless of the weather? These are memories that last too, right?
Whether living in military housing or in the community, neighbor relations are one of the top issues families encounter in their homes. In fact, FindLaw published a survey calculating that 42% of Americans have reported a neighbor dispute. They even list the top five issues neighbors have with one another.
So how can neighbors overcome these problems? Simply put, communication seems to be the first line of defense from offensive neighbors, and only from then on do sources like LegalZoom suggest alternatives such as engaging law enforcement and lawyers.
What about the horrible neighbor who screamed at me from her doorway while I was walking with my daughter? She thought I'd called the police on her wandering dog and children. I didn’t. I should have, but someone else did. My husband and I attempted to have a decent conversation with them, but it went very poorly. I did my best to avoid contact, which was difficult to do because their home was unavoidable walking or driving.
I had heard rumors a transfer was due and wished for time to move quickly. Then the magic moving trucks arrived. This is one of the perks of living on base. Most people don’t stay long, but it can be hard to wait them out if you're in a tough situation.
The peace that descended upon our street after their departure was so telling. One bad neighbor can ruin so many wonderful days for the rest. Obviously, the family had many issues with several neighbors, not just us. I happened to be the target for that day of porch yelling. The moral of the story is to realize we all have challenges, so act kindly and be aware of how we affect each other’s daily lives.