6 Ways to Prepare for Your Spouse's Deployment
Though we've survived them before, each deployment is different and raises new challenges for the family. Not only do the missions, rules, and forms of communication vary, but your life at home does, too.
You have kids, you change jobs, you move or your friends move, and you realize that each of these variables, affects your life during deployment in a big way.
Carlos Perez, Assistant Secretary for America Armed Forces Mutual Aid Association (AAFMAA), served as an Army combat engineer for 26.5 years. He's a husband, father to four, and served three deployments during his time with the Army. He shared some tips on how a military spouse can prepare for deployment, gleaning from his extensive experience.
1) Get informed.
Attend pre-deployment meetings and learn as much information about the deployment as you can. Obviously, some information is confidential, but strive to find answers like where your service member is going and for how long.
Then talk to your spouse about communication. Plan how you’ll reach each other, whether by phone or email, and discuss how often you can expect to hear from one another.
2) Review resources.
Numerous resources are available to support your family when your service member deploys. Connect with the Family Readiness Officer (FRO), or your branch's equivalent, who will keep you informed throughout the pre-deployment and deployment process.
Connect with additional resources to support you and your family like Military Kids Connect, which helps kids ages 6 to 17 cope with deployment through online modules and games. Zero to Three and Sesame Street for Military Families are also great resources to support families with kids.
3) Set a budget.
In preparation for deployment, take a look at your family's budget. When your spouse deploys, you may want to cancel services that aren't being used, as well as decide how you want to integrate entitlement pay. Together, decide if you want to pay off debt, save, or invest the additional income and create a new budget accordingly.
4) Verify access to accounts.
If you aren’t the primary account holder for utilities, bills, and bank accounts, your service member needs to make you an authorized account manager. Even if your bills are established on auto-pay, if the system fails, you'll need the authority to handle the accounts without relying on your deployed spouse.
You can get a Power of Attorney, but companies aren’t required to accept it, so it’s best to have both a POA and be an account manager.
Before your service member deploys, download a password vault to document your usernames and passwords in one protected place. This small step will help you not have to depend on reaching your spouse on a ship or in the desert where communication may be scarce.
5) Locate and update important documents.
Your family’s sensitive documents like birth certificates, marriage license, and will should be filed in one place. Know where they are and update them as needed. If your will doesn’t include the baby you had last year, make a trip to your legal office and update it.
Ask your spouse to look at their Servicemembers Group Life Insurance (SGLI) and DD93 (Record of Emergency Datat) to ensure that you’re listed as the contact person should anything happen to them on deployment. If they last deployed before you were married, the contact person may still be their parents. You may also want to look at the amount of life insurance, in the event that the unthinkable happens.
6) Review housekeeping.
Talk about things like car and home maintenance. How often does the oil need to be changed, and which mechanic do you take it to? If something goes wrong at the house, which handyman do you call? Write down the contact information and keep it with the car and home records you have filed.
Deployments are something military families learn to cope with. Start with these action steps and you'll find new confidence and independence to get through this time!